Ask your friend, because otherwise a whole load of new problems to start within the group. I'd also getting to know him more, even if he asks you out on a date, if you have an attraction to him you can say yes, but as friends...for now.

But honestly, if there is no feeling towards him then why are you writing this post. If you don't like him, don't date him. Simples

I think Bloody gave you a great advice.

Asking your friend what she thinks about this whole situation is best. It's obvious that you value her more than the guy that you don't even know that much.

And I also agree that it's good to try being friends first and trying to know each other better. It might turn out that you'll actually like him a lot or it might turn out that he was wrong and doesn't like you at all. Well, that last one actually happened to me a couple of times. Apparently boys think I'm a better girlfriend material than I actually am... Too bad.

And if in the end you still don't think that giving this guy a chance is okay simply because you don't feel like it then you definitely have a right to do so. Don't feel obliged to agree on everything :)

I'd say if you're interested, definitely talk to your friend first. Subway says a true friend wouldn't care, but I say a true friend wouldn't stomp on her friend's feelings just to get her own way. A true friend will sacrifice something she wants for her friend.

That being said, it can be a little weird for a friend to date your ex, but life goes on and it can become normal: one of my best friends is married to one of my ex-boyfriends. It was a little awkward for a while, but now we hang out all the time as couples and it's perfectly fine.

@Subway In high school, there are certain "codes" that go amongst students. Boys and cannot date their friends exes and neither can girls. It is ALWAYS best to ask your friends opinion. Especially if you appreciate her so much as a friend. I gave my story above about a similar situation. My friend didn't like it at first but over time she accepted my feelings towards him. It's just the right thing to do.

The code is basically something that goes along the lines of "chicks before *****," just like for guys it's "Bros before *****". Ya know, sort of like, you gotta ask if it would be weird at all if you date her/his ex. I mean, would you want someone you dated with whom the relationship ended on a bad note, to be seeing with one of your best buddies? I mean, you wouldn't, for an example would have more nice things to say than bad about him if he was a real douche to you, no? Wouldn't your friend also feel bad if all she heard from you is bad stuff about that guy she supposedly likes? Just sayin'.

The whole point of asking your friend whether or not she's okay with it is to show her you care about her feelings. That way, you wouldn't be at risk of hurting your friend if she still has feelings for said ex. It would be pretty bad if your friend has feelings for him and you just went and started dating him without considering it.

It has happened to me, when my best friend first started going out with my ex whom I still had unresolved feelings for and I couldn't face them for like, a whole month. I just felt really horrible, you know? When she finally asked about why I was avoiding her I just sort of exploded, but then we talked it out (at length) and now I talk with both of them everyday since I live in another country now, and also I'm happily engaged to someone else.