101 Agreed with angel on the David situation.

about your dad, as much as I hate what he said, when I go back to everything you said and did for the last few years, I want you to ... Well... Be more forgiving of him IF your mom forgives him. He sounds like he's going through a lot and I've seen people who said a lot of awful things when in reality they mean nothing of it. Your mom is the one who loves him and if she forgives him, you need to, too.

also, I go back to what you said about him when we first started to talk, to some of the good things you said at times and to the fact that I think he did what he did in the Caije situation because he cares, he might not be as bad as he ... Makes himself seem.

again, I don't live with you. I don't know him or your family in person ... And I do know how it hurts to hear all the mean things he ever said (believe me I do ... More than you think), but there's a possibility he needs you and your mom and he seems to actually care too much at times, soooo..

again not sure, but... Yeah....my two cents.

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I can understand wanting to switch schools. A few of my friends did the same thing.

Morning and all that fuzzy stuff...

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I just need to redefine myself.

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Morning!!
So this is what my friends and I did today. :D

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Henna. :D We did it in class so whenever a teacher passed by, I had a heart attack!

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Bunch of crap happened last night and this morning so my family decided on a "Forgive and Forget" move to Colorado

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Yes. This move actually excites me. I'm pretty happy for it. Caije and I are staying friends for now. We'll plan whatever in the future. Felicia is coming to see me soon. It'll be by the end of the month and we're only taking bare necessities.

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It would be a nice change and a new feeling to get out of the place filled with so much negativity. A new place and a new start. A manual reset to your life. Good luck Twin!

99 And we're going to be here for you every step of the way.

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YEP! we will :3
@Malu - The dots look so carefully placed!

Never. Never have I ever been so insulted in my life. Had it been one of my friends I probably would've calmly turned away or ask them to never speak of it again. Maybe. I mean I've been called a smurf because of my height. People have questioned my religion and made fun of it to my face. People have made fun of the short term choices I've made and stayed stuck with it for years rather than let it go. But this is by far the worst of the worst I've ever heard.

The worst part? My mother's the one who said it. You all know I'm the oldest, right? And soon to be the shortest? One brother and sister are taller than me. And you know my heritage. Well, in Pakistani/Indian culture, the men are the most wanted because they take on the family name, take care of the parents when the parents grow old, etc., etc.
My mom has always said how she dislikes that tradition because genders should be treated equally. I agree it should be stopped. But my mom grew up in Pakistan. I think that means she also grew up with that style of thinking. There's no way that she can escape that.

We came back from the mosque and because it's the 4th, our neighbors were doing some fireworks and invited us. My mom didn't want to go and I wanted to go but I felt bad that she always ends up home alone so I offered to stay. She said no then I bugged her a little to come with us. She still said no so I again said I'll stay. Thinking I'd be afraid she turned to my brother and said "Oh don't worry you'll have your big brother to protect you."

Damn.

I was about to go in tears right there but calmed myself. Thank God it was dark out. My brother didn't catch it and I played it off by being jokingly upset. I didn't even get an apology which, I guess is understandable based on the way I showed my feelings. I just wanted to be on my own then but my brother wouldn't leave me alone. Not because of what my mom said but because no one he knew was there at the place they were doing fireworks.

I don't...I know it's trivial, but at the same time, I just...
She makes fun of my height, I let it go. Everyone knows it upsets me. She makes fun of my weight, I let it go. She thinks I'm unnecessarily overweight and the way she talks, I know she's embarrassed by me. She prods my personality. She's called me anti-social, things I've said to her because she's my mom and I trust her she's decided to tell everyone I didn't want to tell, but this? There's no amount of words that can describe what I feel right now. We all know my brother's her favorite, but I've never thought she'd consider him so above me that she treats him like the eldest of the family.

Maybe it's not what she actually thinks. But it sure feels like it.

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97 tsk. I hate it when this happens. Sadly I think it's not one country/culture/religion. It's everywhere. Little girls are always "pretty girl" not "smart or brave". I've seen it here in the US too and every country I've been to.

I'm currently active in orgs that fight that in colleges and schools.

anyways, Angel, you're one of the smartest, most talented people I ever met. In one year, I saw you stick to your art and improve it dramatically. I think you're pretty from the pics you shared. I know you can do a lot. You can do anything you want and you can do it on your own. No one should ever make you think anything less.

As for what she thinks, she has ... Old ideas. She doesn't necessarily mean it, but sadly many women from the older generations are like that.

my dad has sometimes said things like that. Every time he told me I should learn more about cooking, which I know he meant it in an absolutely positive way. Not criticizing me or anything. I remind him that my brother should too. Now he stopped saying that. He would catch himself before saying something like it.

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I'm just gonna say...feminism :)

And Tampa, FL is actually our final decision.

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